Boundaries

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This week God has been reminding me about boundaries. Some of you have probably read the book Boundaries, by Cloud & Townsend. I’ve gone back and re-read portions of that book this week so this has been on my mind. In a way, it may be in response to all those thoughts about masks. In those posts and comments I mentioned that we, as Christians, need to be ready and willing to show grace to our brothers and sisters in Christ who may be struggling. I probably need to clarify here that I didn’t mean we should condone sinful behavior. As always, we need to make sure we balance this and not let that pendulum swing too far in the wrong direction…where we’re condoning sin or maybe even enabling someone to stay in sin. Isn’t balance always that elusive goal in life?? Seems like we naturally tend to go to extremes in so many areas, and it’s hard to find the balance.

One of the really interesting thoughts I’ve been challenged with this week is the Biblical principle of Sowing and Reaping. In trying to help others, we have to be careful not to reap what they’ve sown. Meaning, if they need to face the consequences of their behavior, we should be ready to step out of the way and let God have His way in their lives. The Scriptures tell us that there’s a sorrow that leads to repentance, and if we never allow people to reap what they’ve sown and experience that sorrow, then we may be hindering that process. I like how the book Boundaries puts this:

“Just as we can interfer with the law of gravity by catching a glass tumbling off the table, people can interfere with the Law of Cause and Effect by stepping in and rescuing irresponsible people. Rescuing a person from the natural consequences of his behavior enables him to continue in irresponsible behavior. The Law of Sowing and Reaping has not been repealed. It is still operating. But the doer is not suffering the consequences; someone else is.”

We, as Christians are called to unselfish, unconditional love. And we need to live lives that exemplify that. But love sometimes means calling someone out on their dangerous or unhealthy behavior. Sometimes there’s a fine line between loving someone and enabling them. Let’s pray that God will give us the wisdom to know where that line is.

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3 Responses to “Boundaries”

  1. Beth Blom Says:

    Such good thoughts! This helps me so much this week. Always seems like
    their are people in our life on all sides bringing these things to mind.

    I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you ( & me) the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you (I) may know him better. Eph 1:17

  2. Becky Hodges Says:

    Stepping out of the way of consequences is painful for the person who has to watch. I have just been thru a situation with a family member. I tried so hard to help this person. I became very frustrated at their very rebellious heart. Then……the Lord began to speak to me and asked if I would pick up a mirror in look in it. What do you see…Becky ? Another rebellious heart. He reminded me of the rebellious heart I once had. I too, had to find answers the hard way. You reap what you sow everytime. No one gets away with anything…….sooner or later it all catches up to you. The Magnifiance of God’s Grace……..I just Praise Him for it !! I pray for the Wisdom of God everyday. I also pray that thru Christ I will extend the Grace He so wonderfully gave to me.

  3. Charity Says:

    Thanks, Beth, for sharing and for your encouragement! And that Eph. verse is my prayer, too…we definitely need the Spirit of wisdom and revelation!!

    And Becky, I’m so glad you said that about God reminding you of your own heart. We all need to hear that…it’s so true! It is painful to watch someone reaping what they’ve sown, but if we can keep in mind our own need for grace, maybe it’ll help us have the compassion we need to love them throughout the process. Thanks for sharing that!!

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