I’ve been amazed at the response I got from that last post…comments, emails, questions. Apparently, there are plenty of us mask-wearers out there! As Meredith said, it’s the default position for many of us. I’ll be honest with you here… this whole blog thing is really gonna stretch me out of my comfort zone in this respect. I’m fine with being open and transparent one-on-one, and I’m pretty good in groups. But this…well, this is as public as it gets. And I find myself thinking OFTEN about how certain people will react to whatever I’m about to say. I’m wondering…is that a good thing or a bad thing?? is it my pride that makes me hesitate? is it fear of man? I guess, everyone falls in different places on this transparency continuum, and it probably has alot to do with our personalities. I’m pretty outgoing and don’t mind speaking up, usually. Don, as I said earlier, is very private, and it’s much harder for him to open up about his thoughts and feelings. But I’m wondering, in general, how should we, as followers and representatives of Jesus, do this? How open should we be? Are there certain things that should be kept private? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this, folks!
I remember hearing a famous author and speaker giving her testimony one time. She had a pretty stained past, but she shared it openly because, as she put it, “It doesn’t matter what you think of me…it only matters what you think of God. And the worse off I was, the better His grace appears.” I’m pretty sure I agree with her, but I still find certain things about my past difficult to talk about. When I was in the middle of our marriage struggles, I really didn’t feel like I had a choice about the mask. Don didn’t want me to talk to anyone about our issues. I didn’t completely submit to that, because I was afraid I couldn’t survive if I didn’t have at least a few friends to help me. But generally speaking, the mask was like a prison to me. I hated it, but I didn’t know how to get out of it.
It was interesting yesterday when I asked Don to read my marriage post before I published it. I wanted to make sure he was ok with it. It amazed me when he just nodded and smiled and said “yep, that’s good.” Wow….another evidence of God’s grace in his life. Before, he would’ve NEVER wanted me to talk about our struggles like that…especially on the internet for the whole world to see. So I’m thinking…that transparency is a gift from God. And I’m so glad God’s allowing us to talk now about our struggles. Maybe, just maybe, it’ll help someone.